move on.

how can i be candidly yours if i don't so very bluntly hit this topic. we often dwell on the things of the past far too long. so long that even when it's not in our realities anymore while we still ruminate. i for one, have entertained these constant thoughts, but the ultimate favor for ourselves--which at the end of the day, is what we'd want out of it--comes from fully accepting, and moving on. it takes time for sure. unconventionally, i'd even say that if you have to go back as many times until it no longer hurts, do it. sit in it. feel it. fully. whether it's relationships, missed opportunities, the "what could've been". the more consistent you master the practice of exit, no absence, no uncertainty, no change in reality will be one to make you feel without or "less than". imagine all the energy, the minutes, the DAYS accumulated spent on thinking about them/it. i heard something that goes, "when the frequency changes, don't go chasing the static....change the station". listen. it's hard to believe. but nothing you lose will ever be better then what is coming. now if you are wondering "when?". well i can't tell you how to learn patience. relationship speaking, if someone mishandles your worth, do not hand them more time in hopes they'll figure it out. if you're staying and trying to fix, what i've learned is, growth does not come from something already dead. loosen your grip on fleeting things when the promised is right behind you. leave people and things where they are. watch them live in the same cycle you freed yourself from. the thing i love most about time and moving on is that in the end, you look back wondering why you ever wanted that. because now you have and know you can aquire better. remember who you are. it's your life, your story. people and opportunities are part of it. not co-author's of it. do not go fighting for your place in someone else's confusion. sorry but. that's just embarrassing. for opportunities, i guess i look at it from a place of faith. and it doesn't have to be in a religious way. life, no matter what, eventually gets better. things come again. but they also go. have faith that there is a plan that is your destiny, and that if one opportunity said no, it's because you're aiming too low. don't take it personally. in fact, say thank you. time is in fact a virtue. it ended, but now you can begin again. the wrong doors closed so the right ones could open. listen. as you grow and change, some things will no longer fit. and pining for the old will only hinder your growth. the things you lose or miss out on are built for a person you no longer are, or never were meant to be. it's supposed to hurt. it won't be easy. if you get over it in a day i might commend you, but i also might be afraid of you. i think i always will come back to this. maybe it's the era i'm currently in. but there's this epidemic of begging the external to complete our internal. what i mean is, if you are whole in yourself, you aren't begging for anything to come and remain. and honestly only when you are whole in yourself, do you find yourself attracting everything you could've ever imagined.

-candidly yours